Here is an example of the useful tips we offer teachers and parents throughout our curriculum.
Things to remember when teaching your child about being truthful.
- Children learn from the example you set. If you are visibly truthful and consistently chose to do the right thing even if it is hard, so will they.
- Always be honest with your children, no matter what. They can handle the truth better than a lie.
- Allow children to experience the physical and emotional consequences of their choices. Adults tend to ‘harness’ the emotional consequences as either their own bitter disappointment, or their own pride and delight. The following statements are very helpful in allowing children to fully experience the emotional consequences of their choices:
“You should feel very proud of yourself!”
“I can see you are very disappointed in yourself!”
- Create a loving and nurturing environment in which a child feels safe to make a mistake. The following statement can be very helpful:
“You are an important member of this class, but I really don’t agree with your choice/actions/words.”
- Always take the time to ask a child how they ‘feel’ after telling the truth or after you discover they have told a lie.
- Be sensitive to what a child says about decisions involving right or wrong and do not hesitate to firmly correct statements like, “It doesn’t matter—nobody will ever find out” or “Everybody does it.”
- Take the opportunity to talk about issues of right and wrong with your class, either from real life experiences as they happen around you or when you are watching a movie together.